Have you ever tried to share a sweet treat with a hungry man?
Personally, it’s something I avoid at all costs — much like skydiving, oysters, and the Waterloo & City line.
You might wonder why I feel so strongly about never sharing a tiramisu with a member of the opposite sex. Well, a recent viral TikTok summed it up perfectly for me.
Content creator @quin_blomstrom ignited an online frenzy when she posted a video of herself sharing a piece of pie with her husband.
The clip, which has been watched over 3.5 million times, came with the caption: ‘When you thought it’d be romantic to share a dessert with your husband…’
But, as it turns out, when there’s food involved, romance doesn’t stand a chance.
To the absolute horror of millions, poor Quin barely managed to eat one bite of the pie before it has practically vanished before her eyes.
Almost immediately, hundreds of women bombarded the comment section —exclaiming in horror that the ‘absolute lack of consideration’ was an ‘instant no’. One user even described the video as ‘feral’.
Imploring Quin to pack her things and skedaddle, many felt that commandeering a piece of pie was in fact a sackable offence.
@Candlejerk wrote: ‘This is grounds for divorce in my book’, while @rykah added: ‘This is genuinely so sad. He’s not thinking about anything but himself.’
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Some women, furious that men feel immediately entitled to their ‘big boy bite’, even shared that they’ve been forced to take extreme measures to stay fed.
‘Sharing an appetizer with my man makes me feel like a dog with food aggression,’ @agirlwhohasnoname wrote.
@caaz1023 has an equally tough time sharing with her partner: ‘I have to physically shield my food from my husband like I’m a dog resource guarding!’
Resource guarding is a term usually used for dogs.
If a dog feels the need to protect valued items such as food, toys, or spaces, it can become aggressive and might growl or snap at its owner.
I can totally understand why a 27-year-old woman might feel the need to growl at her boyfriend who’s insistent on eating the last bite of an ice cream sundae.
So, is wanting the bigger slice of cake a red flag?
It might sound like a trivial debate: who gets the bigger slice of pie?
But relationship therapist Becky Crepsley-Fox appreciates why some women might be quick to label this behaviour as ‘greedy’ or ‘inconsiderate’.
‘Rather than checking in with his partner, he’s assumed his need is greater or that he’s entitled to more.
‘And I see it everywhere, not just in couples. Go round to someone’s house for dinner and it’s often the men who get offered seconds first.
‘There’s an old belief that men are bigger so need more fuel, and I think there’s a patriarchal thread running through it too: the assumption that men’s needs matter more.’
While a group of women might go out of their way to ensure a portion is divided as mathematically equally as possible, the same can’t be said of a man tucking into a slice of cheesecake on date night.
Now, as an isolated incident, Becky wouldn’t necessarily call it a red flag, explaining that people often act on autopilot or simply don’t notice what they’re doing.
That being said, if it fits a pattern of other behaviours where there’s no communication, or where someone consistently puts themselves first, then yes, it might be time to start questioning things.
‘I’d want to know the intention behind it. Why did they give themselves the bigger portion? The answer would tell me a lot about how concerned to be,’ she shares.
If anything, Becky confirms a theory I’ve always had. The way someone approaches dessert tells you a lot about who they are…
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