225 questions to ask your girlfriend: the cute, the serious and the romantic

Talking to anyone can be tough, but keeping the conversation going with a girl you fancy comes with its own anxieties. What if they think the question I’m asking is weird? What if I’m asking something too invasive for a first date? How will I know if they’re actually interested in me if I’m the only one asking personal questions?

Whether it’s a new relationship or one you’ve been in for a hot minute, the task is the same: What is there to talk about over dinner/on the way to the movies/at home/on the phone/literally any downtime you may have together?

Even as someone who’s been in a committed relationship for over a decade, I still scour sites for fun conversation starters to keep things interesting. It’s totally normal and not at all weird to want to have thought-provoking topics to discuss with someone you’re really into. Plus, your girlfriend will appreciate that you took the time to delve deeper into your relationship together.

Instead of spiraling, consider putting together a thoughtful vault of questions to ask. It’s not just about filling talk time, it’s about getting to know someone you already like a whole bunch. Fear not, not all of these questions have to be super deep (although there’s definitely a few of those as well), some are super fun ways to break the ice, like “Would you rather go back in time or go to the future?”

Below, we rounded up 200 questions to ask your girlfriend, from deep questions that’ll take your relationship to the next level to fun questions that’ll pass the time as you drive to Target and everything in between.

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Deep Questions

Romantic Questions

Serious Questions

Fun Questions

Cute Questions

Deep questions to ask your girlfriend

There are lighthearted questions best fit for a quick morning coffee at the cafe and then there are the ones you reserve for late nights and long road trips. The following questions are best for those latter situations.

1. Who is your role model and why?
2. What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made?
3. What makes you the happiest version of yourself?
4. What do you want your future to look like?
5. How do you define success?
6. Does the idea of getting older scare you?
7. What was your childhood like?
8. What do you do when you’re stressed?
9. Where is your happy place?
10. What’s your biggest fear and have you ever faced it?
11. What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
12. Is there anything you’re too afraid to try?
13. Do you have a favorite childhood memory?
14. What do you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?
15. What do you wish people knew about you?
16. What do you think love is?
17. Is there a question you’ve always wanted to ask me?
18. What’s the most surprising or conversation you’ve had with a stranger?
19. What’s something you learned early on in life that you don’t think other people usually do?
20. What’s your best relationship advice?
21. Are you comfortable telling people when they do something offensive?
22. What do your parents expect of your partner?
23. What makes you feel safe?
24. Who are you closest to?
25. How do you show appreciation for people?
26. What’s your relationship like with your parents?
27. When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?
28. Do you have any regrets?
29. What’s the hardest goodbye you’ve ever said?
30. What’s your biggest insecurity?
31. How do you want to be remembered after you die?
32. Do you consider yourself to be spiritual?
33. Why did your last relationship end?
34. Do you ever wish you could change something you did in the past?
35. What should I look for to know when you’re not feeling your best?
36. When do you feel the happiest?
37. How do you normally express anger or displeasure?
38. Do you prefer to fight over text or in person?
39. What does friendship mean to you?
40. Have you ever disliked someone your friend or family member was dating?
41. What’s something about yourself you’re still learning to accept?
42. What experience has changed the way you see the world?
43. When do you feel most understood by the people around you?
44. What’s a belief you’ve changed your mind about as you’ve grown older?
45. If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be?

Romantic questions to ask your girlfriend

Romantic questions can feel awkward at first, but it’s good to better understand your partner’s definition and feelings around love. The better you understand how they communicate and feel loved, the easier it is to form a stronger connection.

1. What’s your love language?
2. When did you know you wanted to be in a relationship with me?
3. Do you think people were “made for each other”?
4. What’s your guilty pleasure?
5. What is the most attractive thing someone can do, in your opinion?
6. What’s your favourite date night movie?
7. How do you feel about PDA?
8. How do big displays of affection make you feel?
9. What is your favourite love song?
10. What does your ideal date look like?
11. What’s your favourite memory of us?
12. Do you want to get married someday?
13. If you do, what does your dream wedding look like?
14. Do you prefer fancy date nights or casual nights out?
15. When do you feel the most beautiful?
16. What’s your favourite type of kiss?
17. What do I do that makes you smile?
18. How do you describe me to your friends?
19. What’s something I used to do that you miss?
20. What does falling in love feel like to you?
21. What’s the first thing you thought when we met?
22. What does romance mean to you?
23. How would you tell our love story?
24. What’s your communication style?
25. What could I be doing better to express my love to you?
26. What do you value most in a relationship?
27. What fictional couple do you idolise?
28. What three adjectives describe you as a girlfriend?
29. When you’re having a bad day, what can I do to help turn it around?
30. If you wrote a book about us, what would the dedication read?
31. Do you believe in soul mates?
32. What do I do that makes you laugh?
33. What is your first memory of me?
34. When did you realise you first started to fall for me?
35. How can I make you feel loved every day?
36. What’s your favourite date that we’ve been on?
37. What’s the most memorable thing I’ve ever done for you?
38. What makes you feel sexy?
39. What song makes you think of us?
40. What’s your idea of a romantic vacation?
41. What little thing I do makes you feel closest to me?
42. If we could relive one day of our relationship, which day would you choose?
43. What’s something new you’d love for us to experience together?
44. What moment made you feel especially lucky to have me in your life?
45. What’s one tradition you’d love for us to create as a couple?

Serious questions to ask your girlfriend

If you feel the relationship getting serious, it might be time to ask some big questions. (These are those questions.) We’d recommend asking these in an intimate setting where you both feel safe and comfortable answering them.

1. How do you see our future playing out?
2. What is your favourite part of our relationship? And least favourite?
3. What do you want to do when you’re older?
4. Is there anything you would have changed about your childhood?
5. Does anything give you an instant headache?
6. Have you ever run away from a situation? What did that look like?
7. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose?
8. What are your physical and emotional boundaries?
9. Are there any signs that I’ll be able to see when you aren’t feeling well?
10. What’s your favourite thing about yourself?
11. How do you burn off steam?
12. What are your political views?
13. Are there any qualities you seek out in friends?
14. Who has shaped your life in the most significant way?
15. How do you define a strong relationship?
16. What is the biggest compliment I could give you?
17. What do you love about your life?
18. What kinds of social situations make you anxious?
19. How do you like to be cheered up or comforted?
20. Do you think we spend enough time together?
21. What is the toughest part of your life right now?
22. Do you like hanging out with my friends?
23. How important is family to you?
24. Do I hold you back from anything?
25. Do you believe in luck?
26. Is being smart or being kind more important to you?
27. Do you believe in marriage?
28. Do you ever see yourself having children?
29. How would your ex(es) describe you?
30. Are you in therapy?
31. What are some non-sexual forms of intimacy that you enjoy?
32. Who was your first crush, and what did you like about them?
33. Would you give up your dreams for love?
34. Would you ever want to live in a different city?
35. When do you think it’s time to break up with someone?
36. What are your boundaries when it comes to relationships?
37. What are your go-to coping mechanisms for stress?
38. What’s the most memorable conversation you’ve ever had?
39. What’s something you want to improve about yourself?
40. Do you consider yourself a good person?
41. How should we handle disagreements when neither of us wants to back down?
42. What does financial stability mean to you in a relationship?
43. How do you think we can support each other’s individual goals while building a life together?
44. What are your expectations around sharing responsibilities at home?
45. What would help you feel confident that we’re growing in the same direction?

Fun questions to ask your girlfriend

Reserve these for new relationships, moments that need a little levity, and random lulls in conversation.

1. What does your perfect day look like?
2. If you could swap lives with anyone, who would it be and why?
3. What does your dream home look like?
4. If you could paint a room any colour, which one would you choose?
5. What’s your coffee order?
6. How would you spend a million dollars?
7. What is on your bucket list?
8. What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?
9. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
10. If you could live in a TV show, which one would you choose?
11. Do you have a favourite holiday?
12. What do you think should be a holiday that currently isn’t?
13. Could you set a world record for anything?
14. What’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever eaten?
15. Is there anything you absolutely will not eat?
16. If you were a pizza topping, which one would you be?
17. If you could have any kind of pet, what would you choose?
18. Do you have a favourite movie quote?
19. Do you wear slippers at home?
20. What’s your least favourite song?
21. What is one phrase you wish people would stop using?
22. Was there one cartoon you were obsessed with growing up?
23. Who would narrate an audiobook about your life?
24. Do you prefer matching things or pattern mixing?
25. If you could eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
26. Do you believe in ghosts or aliens?
27. What’s the weirdest conspiracy you believe in and why?
28. If you were an ice cream flavour, which would you be and why?
29. Would you rather have a personal chef, personal chauffeur, or personal cleaner?
30. What would be the soundtrack to your life?
31. Would you still love me if I were a worm?
32. What’s your favourite memory of us?
33. Who inspires you right now?
34. If you could make a movie, what would it be?
35. If you were an animal, which would you be and why?
36. If you could be really good at one thing, what would it be and why?
37. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
38. What’s your go-to karaoke song?
39. What’s your dream date?
40. If you could have dinner with anyone alive or dead, who would it be and why?
41. If we had to compete on a reality TV show together, which one would we win?
42. What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever done to impress someone?
43. If you could instantly master one completely useless skill, what would it be?
44. If we opened a business together, what would we sell?
45. What would you do first if we woke up tomorrow and discovered we were famous?

Cute questions to ask your girlfriend

Consider these wild card questions, in the best kind of way. They’re perfect for killing time before a movie, during a long road trip, or just casually texting.

1. What would your superhero name be?
2. What’s your favourite flower?
3. Physical books or audiobooks?
4. Spontaneous gifts or only for big celebrations/moments?
5. What’s your favourite book of all time?
6. What’s your favourite special occasion meal?
7. If you wrote a book, what would the topic be?
8. Are there any songs you know every single word to?
9. Cats or dogs?
10. What’s your favourite karaoke song?
11. What are your favourite things to do with friends?
12. Which animal would you be?
13. Have you ever faked sick and stayed home from school?
14. Do you have a middle name, and is there a story behind it?
15. How do you like to relax at night?
16. Night owl or early bird?
17. What is your ideal breakfast order?
18. What song do you listen to the most often?
19. What’s something your friends think is fun but you really don’t?
20. Indoor or outdoor activities?
21. Do you have a favourite scent?
22. Who do you think your celebrity doppelgänger is?
23. Do you have a favourite nickname?
24. What was your worst haircut?
25. Which Disney princess did you love most growing up?
26. What’s your favourite childhood movie?
27. Would you survive a zombie apocalypse?
28. If you won $100,000 tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d buy?
29. What’s your dream vacation?
30. Who would you pick to play you in a movie version of your life?
31. Are you a cat person or a dog person?
32. Who was your celebrity crush growing up?
33. What’s your favourite board game?
34. What’s a random topic you secretly know everything about?
35. What’s the weirdest fact you know?
36. Do you think hot dogs are a sandwich?
37. What’s something you love to cook?
38. What’s one dance you wish you knew?
39. What’s your go-to order at the movie theatre?
40. What’s your ideal Friday night?
41. What’s a tiny thing that can instantly make your day better?
42. If you could give me a nickname based on my personality, what would it be?
43. What would our perfect lazy Sunday together look like?
44. What’s one little thing you’d love for me to surprise you with someday?
45. If we adopted a pet together, what would you name it?