Uche Ogbodo urges women to walk away from marriages that no longer work

Nollywood actress, Uche Ogbodo, has urged women in unhappy marriages to value themselves, practise self-love and leave relationships that fail to meet their needs.

Describing herself as an advocate of fairness in marriage, Ogbodo told Saturday Beats that fidelity must go both ways and that men should take responsibility for their actions instead of excusing infidelity.

She said, “I am an advocate for 50-50 in marriage. If you want me to be faithful to you, stay faithful to me. You just want (sexual) satisfaction? It’s a desire that you can control. You can control yourself; you are not an animal. Why can’t men stay the same? Why do men always make excuses for their failure? They always make excuses for their stupid behaviours.”

The actress said women must first understand who they are and identify their non-negotiables in a relationship.

“First, you have to know who you are as a woman, know your worth, what you want and also love yourself enough. If you love yourself enough and know what your deal-breaker is in a relationship, and your wants and needs are not being met, then what are you doing in that relationship? I am not an advocate for suffering and smiling. If it is not working, you don’t have to die there,” she added.

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Ogbodo also warned women not to overlook emotional and psychological abuse, stressing that abuse is not limited to physical violence.

She said, “Abuse is not only physical. There’s mental and psychological abuse. When you start to make a woman feel less of herself, you are abusing her mentally and psychologically. You’re making her feel she’s not worth it; that your side chick is better.”

She, however, acknowledged that not all men behave that way.

“Some men are actually well-disciplined, they don’t do these things, they understand the ethics of marriage and good relationships,” she stated.